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Parenting Important? And Styles

I know being a parent is seen in a not so good light these days, like its detrimental to fun and life enjoyment but parents play a huge role in society. Obviously, no one would exist if no one was willing to be parents but beyond that we need people to be good parents and we need more people to be parents. Most of the major ills of the world could be solved with generations of good parents. Perhaps one of the issues is that people have lost the answer to what are the reasons or purposes of parenting. What do you think they are? I’m sure you could google it and find a ton of answers out there but what about your own conclusion? If you can’t come up with a solid answer then you might be looking for the reasons or purposes of parenting. As part of my belief in a Higher power I believe one of the purposes of parenting is to raise good, loving, and righteous members of society. Especially our global society. We have a responsibility to instill in children love, respect
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Fathers are they really that important? YES!!!!!!!

Our world today is littered with fatherless homes and motherless homes. Yet, mothers often are left with taking care of children on their own or mostly on their own. Doesn't mean I think mothers aren't better at raising children, they often are and rightly get custody. But there is something to be said about fathers. It's not that fathers are better than mothers at one thing or another (different discussion, men, and women complement each other) it just that they are different and their presence, as well as the mothers, has an effect on the atmosphere of a home. Either wives and husbands drift apart and divorce leaving the situation in a bad place with the temptation of a father to let things go with his "old" family or there was no marriage, to begin with, and they feel no obligation to be in the child's life on a regular basis. Perhaps its what they are used to seeing or what they grew up with themselves? regardless it does not build contributive and useful
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Conflict or Communication?

It's really easy to get into a contentious trend with your family, they are so close to you all the time and they do things that are irritating on a consistent basis. And we can't seem to get them to stop doing those irritating things even with the subtle hints we drop. Sometimes when we make decisions together we feel like we get undermined or underappreciated like our opinion doesn't matter at all. most likely we will blame it all on poor communication. So how do improve our communication? Most of us participate in some sort of power struggle for whose opinion is better or more important, perhaps we even take turns on decisions. There is a much better way to do things. What about if people would discuss things and be more open! Wow, mind bomb... wait I guess that just makes sense. If we would work together on our problems and come to an agreement instead of trying to be on top of the decision tree. If we take our turns talking and listening things will go so much more s
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Devastating or Edifying

The world is full of good and bad people, good and bad events, and a lot of heartaches. We lose loved ones, young and old, and lose our possessions or jobs. People endure starvation, deprivation, abuse of every kind, and all imaginable undesirable events. Some people and families crumble and spiral out of control or distance themselves. Understandable to be sure, life is hard for a lot of people and its a lot easier to remove yourself from the problem or remove the problem from you. Often that can take the form of running away or avoiding close connection. It's so easy because we often have our own individual default responses. It's a sad truth that when the seas get tempestuous a lot of people decide to jump ship on their loved ones. I'm not condemning them like I said it isn't easy to go through hard times, especially for those who endure things like loss of a child or infidelity. But I do think they miss out on a wonderful opportunity. The easy way is sometimes the v
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Men vs. Women or Men and Women

This one will be a little more of a tender subject, I like to think I am a middle of the row guy on this subject. Women and men (or Men and women) are different on a biological level. Sorry to all you people who want to pretend we are completely equal in every way. But that means that women are better at some things than men and men are better at some things than women. The issue is that we think that if everything isn't the exact same for everyone then it is unfair... if that is unfair then nothing is fair because even if you work really hard to make it all even, people experience things different from each other so you can never get things perfectly even. I'm also not saying that a woman's place is in the home, making food either. Lets just all get the bitter cup of truth down and move on. One of the differences is in how romance goes for men and women. Men really like to get intimate to feel like they are coming closer to a woman but women want to feel close before the
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Is the Wedding Day a Joy or a Nightmare?

For men this is a little bit easier to relate to, okay perhaps most women won't like what I have to say at all but oh well. The wedding day is a day dreamt of by people for good portions of their lives, plans are made by some people before they are even fifteen years old. They know what they want to wear and what the theme will be and the colors assigned to the day. It is a day of felicity! Then six months or so before the big day the real planning, and paying for, starts and felicity says bye. Arguments start and relationships are strained. It isn't always the bride and groom either, in-laws can become enemies during this time. Since the planning can be the big problem all woes should be over when the big day comes and the time for planning is over... right? Wrong this is the crescendo of troubles! How could this be, we have been dreaming of this day and how wonderful it is going to be since we were kids and since we have started drooling over each other. It's not the in-l
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Dating and Marriage I know "yuck" and "this again?!"

Dating, it is a dying activity that is either essential or the best method to build towards marriage. Or is it just changing? If you listen to your parents and grandparents there is only one good way to go about dating, you need to have a bunch of unattached activities with people who are nearly strangers or are strangers. Then from there, you need to keep doing that... then keep doing that. After you do that for a long time then you can think about "courtship" which is what teenagers and young adults today would call dating. After a courtship then you can get engaged and then married. I'll admit it does sound like a good method to find a spouse when we talk about it like that. But for me, it doesn't seem to work. A lot of people my age and younger feel uncomfortable talking to let alone going on a date with someone they barely know. So what do we do instead and how is it viewed by the generation just older than us? Well, their main issue with the way we date and ge
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Sexual Orientation is it Nature or Nurture?

Psychologically speaking there was a conflict between nature and nurture for a long time, and there still is in some cases but it has largely been solved by a synthesis of the two ideas. Most people in the world, as well as many psychologists, would agree that genetics and traits that seem to come with a person when they are born (fewer psychologists would agree with this last part) interact with the environment of a person to make up who they are today. By environment I mean the experiences they have as they grow as well as other factors outside an individual that can influence their development. It certainly makes sense to think this way, certainly, our experiences play a part in the shaping process but there first has to be something to shape. People are not blank slates which are written on by those around them, they are minimally or partially written on slates which flavors our interactions with the world. Yet a lot of people when we discuss sexual orientation, specifically for sa
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Family organization; exchange, system, and conflict

In order to better understand what goes on with families and how to help solve problems with individuals and families theorists have come up with many different ideas of how it all works. The three big ones I am familiar with are the ones mentioned in the title. They all have something to offer and they all have flaws. Exchange theory is honestly repulsive to me though, the idea is that your family, or other, relationships are based on some sort of balance of give and take. Your relationship with say... your parents is in good shape if you are getting at least a little more than you are giving. So if you start to feel like you are giving more than you are getting in benefits from the relationship then you might consider cutting it off. I hope you can see why that is just kind of disgusting to me. I won't deny that some people operate this way, we kind of think that way in United States culture hence we have so many divorces. I can see how things are seen this way but even when some
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Populations, Overrun or Undervalued?

How many of us have seen a movie or read a book where the antagonist (or protagonist depending on what you think) thinks they are the hero because they are trying to save the species or something by killing a ton of people? Hands, hands anyone? If you have been watching popular movies in the last year you have. Most people are familiar with the movie Infinity Wars (great movie by the way) Thanos the baddest of the bad wants to kill half of the universe! How evil and terrifying right? Thanos doesn't see it that way and neither do some people who you walk by on the street. A book by a man named Paul Ehrlich titled "The Population Bomb" outlined the dangers of overpopulation with regards to resources, specifically food and water. This lead to many people believing that having many children was actually immoral. "Immoral, can you believe that!?" is what some of you might say. But how many of you have had the thought that you aren't sure you want to bring kids in
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